[ TED ] The power of vulnerability 脆弱的力量

Brené Brown studies vulnerability, courage, authenticity, and shame. 

TED Speakers Brené Brown: Vulnerability researcher

http://www.ted.com/speakers/brene_brown.html

http://www.brenebrown.com/






Dr.brown 在TED的第一個演講

Brene Brown: 脆弱的力量(The power of vulnerability)

http://www.ted.com/talks/lang/zh-tw/brene_brown_on_vulnerability.html



第二個演講

Brene Brown: 聆聽羞辱感(Listening to shame)

(note)_Brene Brown : 脆弱的力量 The Power of Vulnerability


Worthiness
(believe self can be loved, belonging

empathy

Connection

Courage → to admit self's imperfect
承認自己的不完美
(cour→heart) 
All-hearted


Compassion
(be good to yourself first

Authenticity

Vulnerability
what make them vulnerable, make the beautiful.

willingness
願意→投入不知道結果是好是壞的事

breakdown
spiritual awaking


we numb......everything
(we live in a vulnerable world)

we can't selected numb bad thing.
we numb bad thing & we numb good thing.


we make uncertain CERTAIN.
(I'm right. You're wrong. Shut up. )
(no conversation, no negotiating, just blame )

blame : a way discharge pain & discomfort.
責怪是一種釋放痛苦和不安的方式

we perfect     
(you're worth loved & belonging

we pretend    
(what we do are don't effect on people 



Let ourselves

be seen
(deeply thing, vulnerable thing

love with our all heart (no guarantee)
(不論結果或回報)

practice gratitude
lean into joy
(because feel vulnerable means I'm alive

i am enough
(I believe)

(stop screaming, and start listening.)

kind to people around us, and kind to ourself.


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(note)_Brene Brown : 聆聽羞辱感 Listening to shame

Vulnerability is not weakness.
脆弱並不是弱點。

脆弱充滿了不定性
(uncertainty, emotional risk)


當那些企業家老闆聽到了她的第一個演講，想請她也來演講時
提到

「嘿，我們很喜歡你的演講，但能不能不要講到脆弱和羞恥？我們想談談創新、創造、改變。」
(Company : How about not to talk about Vulnerability and Shame, we want more about Innovation, Creativity and Change.)
但是這怎麼能呢？



所謂創新，就是去創造以前從來沒有的事情、前所未有的事
這難道不是最脆弱的嗎？

Vulnerability is the birthplace to innovation, creativity and change.
脆弱就是創新、創造、改變的發源地。



Shame
羞恥就像是我們心靈的沼澤地。(榮格)



當你要去做一件事的時候

shame : '' Never good enough. ''

'' Who do you think you are ? ''












羞恥與內疚的不同
the difference between shame and guilt

Shame focus on self. Guilt focus on behavior.



shame is :  I'm bad.

guilt is :  I did something bad.



guilt is :  I'm sorry. I made a mistake.

shame is : I'm sorry. I am a mistake.


shame always saying :
you are not good enough,not strong enough, not smart enough, not pretty enough, not rich enough, not talented enough........


to cultivate shame :

secrecy, silent, judgement
隱蔽、沉默以及裁決
讓羞恥倍數成長


to stop shame :

empamthy is the antidote to shame
同理心是羞恥的解藥

the most powerful words

''Me, too.''









在競技場裡的人

THE MAN IN THE ARENA

Excerpt from the speech "Citizenship In A Republic"  delivered at the Sorbonne, in Paris,  France on 23 April, 1910 



''It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat. ''

脆弱，是我們對勇氣最精準的衡量。

Vulnerability is our most accurate measurement to courage.